Stepathlon – Day 14

I missed the entry of day 13 which was not something to be proud of. The step count was extremely low since I did not go for the morning walk and spent most of my day on desk answering emails and calls.

Day 14 was full of activity since this I had meeting on different floors and I went for an evening walk too. So here are screen shots.

Evening Walk Summary
Evening Walk Summary
Step Count
Step Count

Stepathlon – Day 12

Recently I happened to read somewhere that once we cross 30 we become more aware about our fitness. So since I cross 30 this year I have become fitness concious if not a freak. So as a part of this frenzy I, along with my team have participated in a competition names “Stepathlon” which is basically a 100 days challenge of walking maximum number of steps.

Stepathlon has provided us with 2 pedometers to track our steps and the step count has to be entered on the website at the end of each day. So me along with 4 other team members are trying our best to increase our step count each day. There are many other pros and cons of the competition and the way steps are counted but more about that later.

So I too am trying, not my level best as such, but yes I am trying. I thought what better place to keep a track of my activities than my own sweet blog! I am a bit late to start the tracking on blog because the competition already started on 2nd September, but no matter, better late than never.

So here is today’s count and the walk track.

Screen shot from an App which tracks walk
Screen shot from an App which tracks walk
The Pedometer Count
The Pedometer Count

Happiness for others is….

Half a year back I wrote about what happiness means to me and how I have learnt to be happy and remain happy. Every word of it stands true even today. We all by and far know what makes us happy but the a profile picture of a friend made me think do we really know what makes others happy or is it just our perception of their happiness? By others here I mean the people whom we love.

Sometimes we feel that we know what makes the other person happy but is that really true or is it just our perception of their happiness. We may do something, small or big, thinking that it will make the other person happy but do we realize that that exact thing might be the irritating the person or worse still making the person feel sad?

Other times we feel that we are doing something for the betterment of the person we love but do we realize that it may harm the person emotionally to no extent. Don’t get me wrong, I am talking about a reverse scenario here. In most of the cases, our loved ones do things to make us happy and it does work!

I will quote a simple example, with a super power which only she has, my mom often surprises me with a glass of cold coffee at night an hour after dinner and says she just sensed that I wanted something chilled and that chilled is cold coffee! On the other hand, my dad will, more often than not, offer me fruits or offer to make milkshake or will force me to eat something when I am not feeling upto it at all. The timing is always off and he ends up forcing me eat out of concern but I end up getting a bit irritated since I am an “answer in once sentence and only once “sort of a person.

The purpose of both my parents is to make me happy or sheer concern for me but the way they express and the timing does matter.  I do not doubt their intention a bit, my father’s intention clearly is to make me eat something he wishes but he sometimes forgets the angle that I might not want to eat that or may be not at that time. Whereas my mother most of the time senses that I am not up for force eating and she just gives up after an attempt or two or better still just knows what I need at that point of time. Yes, we can always go back to the fact that mother understands us like nobody does but still.

So coming back to the point, sometimes we assume that someone’s happiness is in something and work towards it without the knowledge that that thing might actually be hurting that person to no end. Other times we may assume that something that we are doing now will result in other person’s happiness later but it is still an assumption. Basically we have to choose between what really makes the other person happy or we think makes them happy.

There is also a time where we know that what we do is hurting the other person but we assume that it is better for them and will result in their happiness sometime later. But what if the other person really wants is the happiness now and pains later? It again depends from person to person.

There is a Marathi movie names “Duniyadari” , in this movie the heroine Shirin marries Shreyas the hero even when she is aware that Shreyas has an interminable disease and has his days are numbered. In one of the scenes after their marriage (yes they get married in a dramatic scene) she says (translating Marathi dialogue in English), “when I came to know about your disease I thought what can I do for you? And the answer came, I can love you!”. This is a classic example. The guy could have very well left her with an assumption that she will be happy if he stays away from her life, the girl could have very well married the rich, spoiled brat but they both chose each other. Neither the guy said I will not marry you because I am interminably ill nor did the girl think that she might have her husband only for a few months or even days.

The above scenario can be interpreted in more than one ways than one mentioned above but I absolutely loved the way they accepted their own and the other person’s happiness. Some might even say what’s the point in spoiling the girl’s life when the guy knows that he cannot be with the girl for ever or why can’t the girl be practical and get married to the other guy. But I have chosen my point of view and it remains.

When I Googled “i want you to be happy even if” I got ample number of results with images with quotes like “.. even if it means without me” or “even it means that I am not a part of it” or “even if you are not with me”, honestly none of it goes down well with me. But such is life dearies! 🙂