THAT ONE RELATIONSHIP

That one relationship is with a person who is out of reach but the other does not have the desire to achieve that person. All you want is to be with them. The relation so platonic that it is difficult not to be misunderstood by anyone. There are no expectations for the plain reason that they are fulfilled before they are created.

That one relationship in which the admiration for each other is always expressed in mockery. Laughing and crying together is the best thing the two people can do for each other. Where shoulders are not required to cry on, one look at the other and it’s done! No physical contact is necessary neither it is desired. The other person like a warm sunshine on a cold morning!

That one relationship which has to be let gone when the time comes. For which a silent prayer crosses the lips. Where all you can do is see the person walk off, for it is best for the other person. For it was meant to be!

The two banks of a river.. Forever together but forever apart!
The two banks of a river.. Forever together but forever apart!

That one relationship is not love. There may already be a person in your life who you love dearly. That one relationship also does not encourage you to infidelity, infact it makes no difference to your existing love life, but is special enough to occupy a separate place in your heart. A place which no one else can occupy, a place which is reserved for that one person.

A feeling unparallel, a bond unbreakable, where touch is not required to heal the heart’s wound and words are not required to express feelings. That one relationship is not about breaking monogamy and is over and above the worldly desires. Where the deepest feelings are conveyed just by looking into each other’s eyes.

That one relationship does not have even a hint of possessiveness for each other, for there is a unique trust and confidence in each other. A confidence so unique and absolute that nothing in the world can shake. No jealousy what so ever is felt for each other’s partner. There is complete acceptance for one another with all the things that belong to each other’s world. This confidence also comes with the absence of desire physical or otherwise for each other.

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Image Courtesy connectingsingles.com

This one relationship is with a person for whom silent tears roll down the eyes in darkness of the night. For if the tears are seen by others may be misunderstood in the worst possible way. For the world may never understand what the relation is. It is like the moth and the fire, the moth has to be near enough to the fire to be with it but far enough to not burn itself.

That one relationship is one in which two people stand at either ends of the bridge and the distance is bliss and the bliss is the distance. Or like the two banks of a river which always run parallel to each other which are forever together but forever apart!

That one relationship where saying “I Love You” is actually awkward. For the reason that what the two people in it feel for each other is not love, it is something over and above everything else. It is admiration of a different form best known to them both. The funny and tricky part about that one relationship is that it does not have a name neither an identity. How two people feel about each other in that one relationship can be felt and experiences only by them. It complicated yet simple.

This is the one feeling for which I am lost for words but has made an attempt to express it the best way I can. So in my words, it is like standing at the edge of freshly rained on valley hugging yourself with closed eyes, a smile on the face while the cool breeze fills a new life in you!! That one relationship!

Taken somewhere in Ooty in 2009
Taken somewhere in Ooty in 2009

THE MILK AND THE LEMON

The first thing that comes to mind when we think about milk is the purity and the nutrition it gives us. I believe that our mind is also like milk pure, nutritious, healthy and fulfilling. Well, it might behave in an evil way some times but we will get to that later.

So what happens to this pure, white, nutritious thing when lemon is squeezed in it? The obvious answer, it tears apart and goes bad. The speed at which it happens depends on the intensity of the lemon and the one who is squeezing it. The milk is curdled and turns into a lump which is not pleasant to look at. Most would think the milk is now useless and would dump it.

While the lemon is squeezed intentionally most of the times, it is sometimes unintentional too. The one squeezing the lemon in the milk is more than aware that the lemon juice will spoil the milk and will render it useless for plain consumption.

The owner of this milk has various options; initially the owner may be unaware of the reasons for the milk being spoilt. Probably the owner is too busy scrutinizing and fuming at the one squeezing the lemon and starts resenting and is clueless as to what to do with the milk gone bad. It frustrates, infuriates, saddens and demoralises the owner. The owner looks around and finds that there are lot of people with spoiled milk, and realises that he can do something with the spoiled milk after all. So he hangs the spoiled milk for some times away for the vessel and covers it with a cloth. And viola! There it is, delicious cottage cheese (our very own Paneer)! 😀 He further shapes it by putting it under some weight; this not only gives the cottage cheese the shape but also a texture. The owner also finds out that if it was heated more with all water drained which spoiled the milk, and a little sweetness added, it actually turns into a dessert (our very own Mawa Barfi)! 😀 So the spoiled milk can also become productive with some added heat and pressure.

Image Courtesy - Google
Image Courtesy – Google

But that fact that the milk is still spoilt saddened the owner and he started thinking about something preventive rather than curative. So over a period of time and with experience, the owner realises that if the milk is covered when the lemon is being squeezed in it, the milk will not go bad. The lemon juice remains on the lid and the person with the lemon squeezer uses all his energy but the milk doesn’t go bad! Plus the lid can be cleaned and will be good as new every single time. So every time the owner of the milk spotted someone with a lemon grinning evilly, he coolly puts a lid on the milk. The person with the lemon tries hard, uses all his energy to do so but just does not understand as to why the milk does not get spoilt or the owner infuriated! The owner smiles serenely and the nutrients and the purity of the milk remains. The lemon owner finally gives up!

Image Courtesy - Google
Image Courtesy – Google

People with negative vibes and energy are like the ones with lemon, our minds, with our, I mean everybody’s mind is pure, nutritious and fulfilling. It depends on us what we do with it. So cover the lid of your mind when you see people with lemons. If at all, someone does manage to pour lemon juice in your milk while you are busy washing the lid, try making Paneer or Mawa barfi out of it.  😉

Dint Miss The Obvious!

I had written about having a feeling about missing something obvious in a previous post here.

So in continuation, I was right! I was missing something obvious after all. Failed to see it earlier.

Now that I have seen the obvious, the ignorance has gone and with it, it has taken the bliss as well.

The knowledge gives me peace, happiness, the sense of being content of feelings being reciprocated, but it has also given me some anxiety.

Hope to love it and live with it for sometime now, like a fresh cool breeze at the edge of a valley!

Did you feel like this sometime in your life?